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Vivian Ilene Gilmore, LMFT

Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

"What you think, believe and feel matters.  I believe therapy should be a safe place to explore and honor your feelings and understand negative beliefs holding you back.  Learning to fully accept who you are without judgment is a life-long goal.”

Born in Los Gatos and grew up in San Jose, Vivian absolutely loves working with children and families.  Ilene received her Master’s degree in Counseling Psychology from John F. Kennedy University, and is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist.  She also received her Bachelor’s degree in Journalism from San Jose State University.  Ilene has always had a natural curiosity about human behavior and how the brain works.  Ilene has a multi-cultural approach to therapy by taking into consideration racial, spiritual and ethnic diversity as well as sexual preferences, disabilities, social class and cultural bias.  Ilene has prior counseling experience working with children with Autism Spectrum Disorder, ADHD, Conduct Disorder, Major Depression Disorder, and Anxiety Disorder.  Ilene has counseling experience working with adults, families, parents, and caregivers to improve relationships, improve communication, and create healthy boundaries. Ilene has worked with children providing play therapy to build self-esteem, teach anger management skills, improve peer and parent/child relationships, life transitions, grief and loss, divorce and blended family issues, reduce anxiety and depression symptoms using a client-centered and collaborative approach to therapy.

Licensing and Education

  • Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist #132460

  • Masters of Arts in Counseling Psychology, John F. Kennedy University

  • Bachelor of Science in Journalism, San Jose State University

Specialized Training

  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)

  • Motivational Interviewing 

  • Play and Sand Therapy

  • Humanistic Therapy

  • Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) certification - in process


Clinical Background

  • Evergreeen School District, San Jose, CA

    • provided individual and group counseling services to multi-cultural elementary school for students K - 6th grades

    • provided counseling interventions including: sand tray; therapeutic games; active listening; identifying negative emotions; resolving conflict in peer relationships

    • supported clients in building self-esteem through role play, assessment drawings and the use of expressive arts and play therapy

    • managed crisis intervention issues amongst students that were struggling with depression, abuse, self-harm behaviors and suicidal ideation

    • worked collaboratively with the school administration and school psychologist to meet the needs of students and to assist with the referral process

    • collaborated with parents and school staff to develop Individualized Education Plans (IEPs) to address the needs and strengths of students

    • informed and guided parents in understanding resources outside of the school setting like ABA Therapy when working with children with Autism Spectrum Disorder

    • administered assessments to determine if clients were struggling with depression

  • Cupertino Union School District, Cupertino, CA

    • conducted individual to students K-5th grade using at elementary school for two consecutive years

    • met with students and parents to establish treatment plans, including short and long term goals and interventions

    • collaborated with teachers, school administrators, and third-party professionals in developing IEPs for students

    • led group therapy sessions relating to social skills and peer relationships

    • facilitated a 6-week social skills group for first and second grade boys with ADHD

  • John F. Kennedy Community Counseling Center, Oakland, CA

    • provided weekly counseling services to adults, children, and families truancy, borderline personality disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder 

    • developed treatment plans, progress notes, and diagnostic summaries addressing client needs

    • conducted phone intake interviews consultation in regard to crisis-related issues

    • attended in professional development through weekly 2-hour didactic trainings that addressed topics including: transgender teens, domestic violence, and CPS guidelines and reporting

    • utilized Client-Centered therapy when meeting with children and families to develop therapeutic goals in treatment 

Associations & Memberships

  • California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (CAMFT)